You see her across the room. Ah, so attractive. But nobody to
introduce her to you. "Ah, I'll do a James Bond on her," you
think. Now what was Bond's first words to Pussy Galore? "I
must be dreaming." No, that won't work. How about singing
"Underneath the Mango Tree" to her as Bond did to Honey Rider
in "Dr. No". Ah? No!
Well, what's left? You'll just have to go up and talk to her,
if it's a situation where you won't see her again. But it's
always safe to assume that she has a boyfriend that can squeeze
the stuffings out of a gold ball. That aside, take a chance
and make polite conversation. What's the worst that can happen.
She says, "I'm sorry, I'm not available." and you save the
time and money of a date with her. Like George Burns says,
"When a beautiful woman says "no" to me, it's a relief.
If you know that you will see her again, like at your university,
your job, or working at a restaurant, you can have another shot
at her and use the shy man's approach to getting a date.
"You farm boys don't make a pitch, you just shy your way into
position," Ann Margaret says to Pat Boone in "State Fair".
Okay, here it is. Instead of asking her to dinner or out on a
date which has romance intended, get some tickets to a concert
or event first, and then with tickets in hand say, "I just
happened to have tickets to this event. If you'd like to go
with me, I'd be happy to take you." This way the subject is
the event. Talk about the person singing at the concert,
instead of if the two of you could hit it off or not. She can
easily say yes or no, or ask more questions about you or the
time and place of the event. She doesn't have the pressure of
turning you down, so she can just turn the event down and that
will be that. And if by chance she can't make that date, but
is interested in you, she can start talking about going out
another time.
I've strongly suggested this "ticket" technique to both men and
women who are infatuated with someone at work, or at shop, or
restaurant, and have no idea how to make an approach. If the
person is available, they usually say yes to an invitation.
After all, it's just going to an event. It's not really a
date.
I used this "ticket" technique in college to ask out a beautiful
stranger. I was very shy, but was "in love" from a distance so
I had to take some kind of scary attraction. Her name was Cindy
and I often saw her in the student lounge surrounded by guys.
It took weeks of watching her before I could catch her walking
alone, and ask her if she'd like to go see the reserved seat
Cinerama showing of "Grand Prix". She said, "Well, I don't
know you, but if you come and talk to me sometimes and I get
to know you, then maybe."
So in the next days I made an attempts at getting in a few words
with her as she talked with her friends. Then I found out she
was taking the film appreciation class that I had taken a
semester earlier. So I pushed the teacher to show my new 16mm
action film in the class that she was in. He fiqured I had a
secret motive because he said he'd show it in the morning class,
but I said it had to be shown in the afternoon class (the one
Cindy was in). Finally, he agreed.
I not only directed the film, but had a part in it where I used
my newly learned karate and hoped she would be impressed. The
film went over great with the class cheering and applauding.
As she was leaving the class I said to her, "Well, do you know
me well enough now?" She said, "To go out with you? I replied,
"Yes." She smiled and nodded her head yes.
So don't "ask her out". Don't "take her to dinner". Get some
tickets, and maybe she'll answer you like Cameron Diaz does in
"Charlie's Angels". "Tickets? I love tickets!"
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